How to Find Calm When Life Feels Loud

You don’t have to match the noise — not this season, not ever.

December carries a particular kind of noise. Some joyful, some heavy — expectations, overstimulation, emotional labor, family dynamics, financial pressure, grief, and the constant sense that you’re supposed to make everything meaningful.

If you’re heading into December already stretched thin, burned out, or emotionally overloaded, the noise can feel deafening — especially if you’ve been operating in burnout mode for a while. In this earlier post, I talk more about what burnout really looks like behind the scenes, not just in a checklist.

And then there’s social media. What you see online is curated, not real life. If you’re stretched thin, the noise can feel even louder.

“You don’t have to match the noise to have a meaningful holiday.”

Finding calm in a loud season doesn’t require a major life overhaul — just a few grounded shifts that help you move through December with more steadiness and less overwhelm. Here are six ways to create more calm, clarity, and emotional breathing room when everything around you feels loud.

1. Release the pressure to create a picture-perfect holiday.

For example, when I bought an Elf on the Shelf years ago, the tradition was simple: he moved at night after ‘visiting the North Pole.’ That felt manageable.

Then social media added elaborate scenes and nightly performances. Moving the elf at all was sometimes more than I could manage — so I didn’t. And my kids turned out more than fine.

“Traditions don’t require performance — they require presence.”

2. Identify where the “noise” is coming from — and respond intentionally.

Holiday noise can come from sensory overload, decision fatigue, pressure to make memories, family dynamics, grief, finances, and the mental load.

Once you name the source, choose the response that matches the need:
• Sensory overload → lower stimulation.
• Decision fatigue → simplify and delegate.
• Family pressure → set boundaries.
• Grief → compassion over performance.
• Financial stress → simplify gifting.
• Mental load → write things down and remove non-essentials.

“Clarity is calming. Naming the noise tells you what actually needs support.”

If you need help finding calm in the moment, I created the Gentle Reset Tools — simple grounding practices you can use anytime you feel overstimulated or emotionally overloaded.
Grab them here: Gentle Reset Tools

3. Create micro-moments of quiet.

Calm doesn’t require long breaks; it comes from small resets: slower breaths, dim lights, stepping outside briefly, or pausing in your car.

If you want more ideas for gentle ways to reconnect with yourself, I share additional small-but-powerful shifts in my post on tiny moments of joy and why they matter, especially when you’re overwhelmed.

4. Honor the boundaries that protect your emotional well-being.

One grounding boundary in my family: my kids almost always woke up in their own home on Christmas morning. We broke that only for deeply meaningful reasons connected to loss and family connection.

And if setting boundaries feels especially hard because you’re used to being the “reliable one” or the peacekeeper in your family, I go deeper into this in my post about setting boundaries when you’re a people-pleaser.

5. Choose honesty over guilt.

Guilt says you should be doing more. Honesty says your capacity matters. Shift toward honesty: ‘Simple is enough,’ ‘My bandwidth is lower,’ ‘I don’t need to perform.’

“Honesty creates calm. Guilt creates noise.”

6. If calm feels impossible, you’re not failing — you’re overloaded.

December magnifies everything you’ve carried all year. Therapy offers space to set the noise down and regain steadiness.

You’re allowed to choose calm — even in December.

If you’re craving a steadier season, I support burned-out women and moms in East Cobb/Marietta and across Georgia (in-person and online).

You can schedule a consultation when you’re ready.